Page 76 12 X 12 book Seventh Step
The chief activator of our characters defects has been self centered fear- primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or we would fail to get something we demanded. Living upon the basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration. Therefore no peace could be be had unless we could find a way to reduce these demands. The difference between a demand and a simple request is plain to anyone.
The above mentioned spiritual thought is far reaching. When taken in its entirety, it includes all facets of our life. The fear created by the demands can create resentments, our number one offender to a better spiritual life
It can come into play when we are thinking we are doing good. Sometimes we make demands when we should make requests, and other times when we make requests it is none of our business at all. Thus relationships are harmed or very hard to reestablish.